Kink Discovery

Do you know this point in your life when you want something and you do not get it?

For example, you want to feel good in your body. You want a partner who loves spending time with you. You want a job where people listen to you. You want an abundant life. You want all of that, and yet you do not get it.

It might be that a shadow part of you actually enjoys people not listening to you, enjoys feeling ugly in your body, enjoys suffering through being poor. That you ridiculously love people not listening to you.

At first glance, this might sound surprising. You may even react by saying, “What? That is bullshit. No. That is not me.”

I have discovered that owning my kink and actually first experiencing it allows me to connect with my wanting. From there, I can decide whether I want what I want, or whether I want to shift my identity and create something else.

To be honest, I love suffering. I love that people hate me. I love to be punnished. At leased I used to unconciously. Discovering that it made sense why my connections with people and my life around me were so much about not being seen. Unsuccessful.

In my life, I loved being a victim. You know, being able to suffer and be no good for others, not being successful in my life, and feeling sadness about everything happening in the world. Feeling sad about not being able to create what I want.

And that sadness was tricky. It stayed hidden and only briefly spoke in my head, and then I would go pleasure myself by eating cakes, smoking, working — many different ways.

As I discovered that I loved being a victim, I allowed myself to play with it and honestly say, with a bit of a theatrical voice:
“I do not want you to tell me anything.”
“I want to suffer in my incapability.”
“I want to feel this ongoing pain of not being good enough.”

Saying it out loud, and saying it with such force to my surroundings, loosened its grip on me like a spell, and I became free.

I became what I wanted. I was one. No more arguing within myself.

That was a moment of such relief — to realize that I am what I want right now.

There is such power in that place, because from there I can move toward something else that I want.

For example:
I want to write an article.
I want to have a hug.
I want someone to listen to me.

That is a powerful place to be:
The place where you are what you want.

My work is based on Possibility Coaching.

My approach comes from the direction where a person is a sophisticated whole being, Having 5 bodies, which each needs its food. Having its shadows, hidden purpose, and survival mechanisms, which are keeping habits and known structures strongly in place so no change is possible until the pain is so strong that the person chose to change.

Possibility coaching is based on opening possibilities that were not seen for you before. By having more possibilities life becomes more rich and doors to a new experiences get open, which can bring a new results.

You might sense your physical body being in strange pain but not understand it.

You might feel emotional pain as depression, anxiety, and so on, repeatedly coming back to your life.

You might be confused about your life having many questions about what to do next.

Getting possibilities as a distinction between feelings, thoughts, and physical body sensations. The distinction between different feelings. Unmixing mixed feelings. Healing past emotions. Completing incomplete feelings. Experimenting.

The path is a step-by-step building matrix. Training muscles of your feelings, your noticing, your clarity, your awareness. The power to distinguish what is happening.

To have a budy on the journey who can point

30 min get-to-know call is for free.

One session 1 hour 30 minutes is 50 to 100 CHF.